.. of causes and actions

.. an update, after a few days hiatus (due to the holidays in Malaysia, i'm just lazing around doing nothing), i realised the fact that i might run out of ideas to write in this blog if nothing spectacular happens to me in the course of my daily life. I can't be telling everyone what happens from the moment i woke up and what transpires when i drive to work right ?? Having that said out, that brings me to my topic today.

.. causes and actions, it is one of the rules that i swear by in my life. Without cause, there is no action, and with action, you need to have a cause to have done that. Can't understand ? Here is a simple scenario, your mom asks you to buy salt from the shop, both mom and salt is the cause. You abide to the request, because you respect your mom, and also without salt you cant have good food. You would not be buying salt for no reason ..

.. that would be the simplest of scenarios, but the same applies if you use it in the most complex of all things in the world, friendship. Friendship is something which you build over time, and it does not happen overnight. It would take years .. years .. years .. i can't stress it enough, but it will only take one simple action to break it into pieces, and most of the time you would not know what happened.

.. the word "sorry" is abused and manipulated in so many ways as an action. If there is an misunderstanding, whether its between you and your loved ones, or between you and a close friend, or between Ah Nia, Ah Sing and you, would you be saying sorry just because you want to recover the relationship. Sorry, being the action taken, but what is the cause for you to have done it? It would be fine if its said to your mom,dad or spouses, because they share your life. But how would it apply to your friends, if you could still label them as friends because of the trust lost so easily in the misunderstanding.

.. is it worth it for you to take action ?

.. i will never do anything unless it is a friendship i cherish and value.
.. it may look like a very selfish act, but is it not what everyone is supposed to be? It is a primal instinct everyone has. Self preservation. Survival. These are the causes for me not to take action. An action taken due to cause that does not benefit me in any way, it is not worth to consider at all. A wrong action taken without a cause would trigger a lot of other actions that might cause a snowball effect that will crush you in the end.

.. confused already ?